Today I'd like to show why the practice of paying for dates on sites like and e Harmony is fundamentally broken, and broken in ways that most people don't realize.
For one thing, their business model exacerbates a problem found on For another thing, as I'll explain, pay sites have a unique incentive to profit from their customers' disappointment.
It's behind the really reliable hookup brands like Hookup Hangout but still a fine option if you keep your expectations low and reaslistic. But (3rd warning) send 20 or so "are you real" messages out and you get no replies. Now you try to get them to turn off the recurring charge (.41/mo - geez! Theirs is a cancellation with a lot of steps to it. Eventually, you are given a "cancellation code" that you have to give to a butter-voiced customer disservice representative who will then try to sell you on one of their other products ("Hotties.com" or some such). But a week later the monthly charge shows up on your charge account.
I actually called the outfit and thanked them for noticing the fraud detection, shortly after I hung up Bank of America called to let me know "Fraud" was detected and they mailed me a new card./Only wish they would of taken a new photo before sending me a new debit card, I am not "18" anymore...
For women, it filters out the guys who think is way to high a price to meet her.
Ben (32) I swear this is a robot site, I get a message that invites sexual, explicit, erotic and just plain horny chatting then when I respond in a positive manner, the next message is so off the wall and coldly different it has to be a robot sending out random $#*! You get done with him & he promises a confirmation e-mail. You contact them with a copy of the cancellation and they reply that you were never enrolled in to begin with, but something like Buggery.com, which you never cancelled out of.
Based in the beautiful British Virgin Islands, Fart (uh...) Flirt will lure you into a paid membership by (Second warning) unlikely numbers of messages from other gender per day.